I was adopted at 7 mo's old by a single divorced white woman who had a son of her own..she was a social worker for many years till she retired...her and I were extremely close up until I was 18...I felt she was to protective..she never wanted me going anywhere and she had my brother watching me all the time up until I was 17..how ridiculous was that....well during my senior year I had enough..I wanted to know what other kids were doing for fun...so when a friend of mine invited me to a party I lied to my mom and told her we were going to the mall to watch a movie..she told me to be home by 11pm..I was shocked she was letting me go..anyways..i went to the party got drunk and didnt get home till 3pm the next day...so she was angry and told me I was grounded..I told her I was 18 and and an adult so she couldnt tell me what to do...she said if i left the yard dont come back..well I left..stupid as that was...I saw her a few months later and she was depressed..she blamed it on me telling me it was my fault because I left...well after that we lost the bond we had...oh sure we got together now and again and but when my second daughter was about 7 she went to live with my mom because my husband and i before we got married..broke up and i was extremely depressed and could not care for my kids because i had no job no money and lost my apt..so she took her..my son went to a friends and then to foster care..they lived like this up until each reached 15 then they came home ..but my mom would not let my daughter come home even when things were going great...she just wouldnt let her go...and it infuriated me because she is my daughter..I wrote a letter to my mom several times but didnt get nowhere until one day she said to me i will alway love you but i feel in my heart Kat is my daughter..??????????????.....screwed up....well when i did get her back which was because my daughter was acting up herself....she started inviting us all over for holidays and all..ok fine..but she never treated the other three kids the same as she did her..she was spoiled rotten and the others resent my mom for being like she is...well...now that I am out of state she is telling me she misses me terribly and she wished i could move back ....i need my mom...I love my mom even thou she made mistakes because so did I ...she had always been a very important person in my life but she acts so different than she use to...i found out that she is a toxic parent but I dont let that bother me I just want her...thats issue one.... I miss my mom but I know she wont really change..she doesnt even call me..but sends me a card for my birthday...sighs...gult trip i feel like it is ...she does that..she likes others to make her happy but does nothing for them ...she is the only family that acknowledges me anymore besides my grandma..my mom turned the rest of the family against me when i left home so they do not asccociate with me..i send cards every year thou with a letter updating whats gone on in the year thou..so i dont ignore them like they do me...so thats one issue that has me feeling realllllly down....and thats just a summary of whats gone on with her...