I went through the same thing. I went to another man because my marriage was over, and I was terrified of being alone. Well, that worked out like a tub of poo on a rainy day, and found myself back at square one about a year ago.

But that's when I realized that as lonely as I was, I was even lonelier working on yet another relationship that was failing. I was choosing the same person over and over, and I knew I had to stop.

So I've been alone. Dated, but been alone. I will NEVER allow myself to settle again. Life it way too short to be unhappy. Dating someone now, and I don't know where it will go - but that's OK too. He's not the source of my happiness - I am.

The hardest part of being with anyone is realizing that you can't change them. Family, friends, relationships - it's all the same! You can't and never will be able to change them.

You will be happier when you find out there is more to life than being with someone. You also really figure out what you want in yourself and others when you actually have time to reflect. And that takes being alone to figure those things out. It can suck sometimes, but it does help.