Thanks for everyones imput. Yesterday T said that putting words to these feelings helps us think about them which then helps create a change to them in the world around. I wasn't getting that in that moment but this morning I do feel aware of me angry, but less inclinded now to let it run ruot, /I think the thinking about it yesterday has helped a great deal, its liie a quite older person had taken the hand of a frightened toddler and just walked and talked to her, now peace resides a little more.