thank you for your compassion for our vets. my son is career military and i could talk on and on about what i know. and the VA system is AWFUL!!!!!!!!! vets just give up and don't receive treatment. i took my ex-husband-a vet-to get routine bloodwork etc at the VA. it was an all day affair. and NO ONE is fixing this incredibly broken system. ppl like my career military officer/active duty son-5 combat war tours-have many health issues they keep secret because of fear of being bumped. when my son recently got a medical deferment until surgery, his commanding officer still insisted he go to afgh. when he reminded him of the temporary deferrment-needs back surgery for one-he still wanted him to be deployed. in discussion his superior said well if you use that to not go, perhaps it's time for you to retire-my son has 21 years in active duty and is only 40 yrs. old.
as for your own medical issues, sounds like you're doing your best. sometimes when i feel discouraged-i'm on disability-i try to help someone else and it does lift my spirits. i'm glad your hubby takes the helpful attitude for you. i'm sure that helps too.