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Originally Posted by midnight_soul
I am going to do some research on finding a way to help them men/women in my town by offering a listening ear and promise to NEVER tell any one whay they say, not even my husband.
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People who are qualified to offer "a listening ear" are taught how to not take on the emotions of other people, to not bring the negative things they may hear on personally and MOST importantly they need to debrief after hearing things like that by talking about them. That's why all councilors, therapists tell you that the information will be kept withing the agency and they never say me and you are the only ones that will ever know what is said.They debrief with other professionals. I don't know if you are educated in such things or not, but i would be careful. I know you want to help, and i know you feel sympathy or maybe even empathy but are you sure that you are well enough if your own life to take this burden on without being able to debrief from it because of your promise not to tell anyone? Also have you considered what you might do or say if they tell you they are going home to kill themselves? Or if they say i get so mad i beat my child or wife? You absolutely can not say you will never tell anyone. How would you feel if you didn't say anything and then you found out they really did go home and kill themselves? Your best bet is to say that your there to listen but there are some limitations to your confidentiality. The limitations are if they express that they are going to harm themselves or someone else or do something illegal.
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Originally Posted by midnight_soul
All I get are pills pills and more pills. Then my shrink whom I trusted with my life for the past 6 years ruined what little of my mind I had left using me like a guinea pig with ECT making me believe....this will make every thing all go away. He told me that 75% of all ppl feel better after a number of treatments. Stupid ME did not do my research until it was to late. What I have found is the opposite to be true and trust me, I see him on the 23rd of this month and my husband is going in with me and BOY are we going to talk. I am ......PI**ED! We both already know the out come of this visit....more pills OR back in the hospital which I will refuse.
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If he said
75% of all people feel better and that he thought it might be helpful do you really think you should be mad at him? He didn't say 100 percent of all people feel better. I am certain he would not do something to intentionally harm you. It has saved many people and it certainly isn't his fault if it didn't work for you. You can be mad about the situation, mad that it didn't work out but you can't really be mad at him for wanting to help you?
This is not meant to discourage you. I'm trying to be honest with you. You said
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Originally Posted by midnight_soul
I am at the point that when any one sends me words of encouragement I just toss it out of my mind. It doesn't help me at all. Im sorry
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So here is my words that are slightly less encouraging and i am wondering if that helps or feels better then the encouragement you receive while "debriefing" on this forum.