If you're going to ask this question here, you have to be prepared to hear opinions from all different angles. Has your therapist discussed 'erotic transference' with you? I think from your post, she has indicated she's not interested in going beyond the therapist position. I also think you're confusing things by saying you want to be friends, yet it seems you're hoping for more. If you're only seeing her to further your connection, that's not right.

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