My Support Forums - View Single Post - Don't know what to do with my therapist and my feelings towards her, PArt 2

(JD) · Nov 13, 2010 at 01:54 PM

Like you said, ((guy))), you know these are common feelings. You are right there! It's so ... tantalizing to finally find someone who listens and cares and gives you so much attention... well we all love that!

Why not use this great relationship you're building (which means you have to listen and talk both, and work (yes work) on those things this expert T has given you to work on... and allow the feelings for her to "just be there" for a while?

Once you are a better person, healed with your hard work in therapy, you can then decide what to do about a possible future relationship. The ethics rules do allow for after therapy relationships, but again you'll have to wait some 3 years or so from the time you are finished (and well, not needing therapy) before the T can even think about it.

The first thing to do before trying to add the stress of a relationship with anyone is to get yourself into the best "order" you can. Good wishes!