I have been divorced from 1st husband for almost 30 years, and it took words from his second ex to really let my family know what a liar and cheat, and crybaby he really is. I even got apologies from his last ex's family for the way they felt about me after they believed his whining. I feel that it takes a stronger person to hold your own, and leave. Why be weak and stick around for the next bout of abuse and whining? We only go around once !!