Hi WePow,

This is a hard one... and maybe best talked over with T, as I'm sure you are. But I know there was a reason you posted here for other opinions so... here goes (here's mine).

There is this one point in AlAnon that basically says, "We are not responsible for anyone else but ourselves." Wow have I gone over this one again and again and I still ponder it. But maybe this is a case where it may be best to narrow your focus. To say, this is where my ability to do work ends... and the rest? In a sense, give it up to god, to the universe. You know the truth. Your T knows the truth. You have really worked hard to change the situation. But maybe... that's it. You have done all you can.