Hi ~ I hope you don't do what I did, and carry around a bunch of resentment for YEARS AND YEARS. All that did was make ME sick - it didn't hurt the people that I was resenting!! I like the saying: "Resentment is the poison that I take to kill YOU." It is so true!! My home life sucked - It was awful. And I got married to get out of the house - and that was a huge mistake! I spent 26 years with an abuser (mental, verbal) who depleted every bit of self-esteem I ever had. I should say I ALLOWED him to do that.

Don't waste your time on reliving your past. Just think of it like this. Your parents gave YOU what THEY had to give. They can't give you something that they haven't got. They brought you up the same way THEY were brought up. That's all they know. It was probably wrong. But you can't change that now. So accept that it happened, and it's OVER. You're stronger for it - but you don't have to continue the cycle. Stop the cycle of abuse with YOU. I did.
God bless you and you're in my prayers. Hugs, Lee