I know that my depression has given me a more realistic view on people, relationships, and life than those I knew or know. My ex likes to believe that the one he is with is "the one" and they're gonna be together forever. My current friend thinks that forgiving everyone and being super crazy positive is the way to live. Yes he is uplifting sometimes, but he doesn't take enough things seriously.. He thinks if you say something that is slightly negative, like you cannot forgive someone, or someone won't change, that you're closing the doors to posibility. I think that no, these people are who they are and no matter of forgiveness or logical reasoning will change their personality and you have to accept it (epecially since I've tried forgivning and logical reasoning for 100 billiion years with them). Even though accepting and living can be hard..