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(JD) · Nov 14, 2010, 09:19 AM

I'm sorry to hear that he's treating you this way. I'm more saddened that you are allowing him to treat you that way, in fact, you seem to be enabling him.

Step back away from your post and read it as though you were someone else and about to give good advice to the person who is in this situation.

YOU need to set times and days... it's called " a date." You can benefit from creating your own life without him, and then if he shows up and you happen to have an enjoyable time, it's an accent to your already enjoyable life.

I suspect that your past negative relationships with men is the reason you allow this behavior from him. And people like him have a knack for finding people like you, to use. I suspect you may be as upset at yourself for putting up with him and needing him to be there for you, as you are upset at him for not being that person for you.

If you can't bear to break it off completely with this guy (unless you have something scheduled with other friends and invite him to show up, so if he does, fine, if not, also fine) then at the very least set some rules and stick to them for your own good mental health! Just my POV.