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Old Nov 14, 2010, 02:15 PM
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Originally Posted by elliemay View Post
In fact, I'm not sure it's my therapist's job to give me a hug if I need one, but to help me to acquire the feeling of being hugged (and not necessarily by him), both in and out of the office.

However, if a hug is refused, and the client has a reaction to that refusal, IMO then the therapist and the client have some work to do to normalize that situation and minimize the re-trauma.
Elliemay, these are both excellent points. Hugging is not for everyone (therapists or clients). Both parties have to feel it is comfortable and appropriate. The bigger issues, I would think, is how that request or desire is handled and processed by the therapist with the client.
Thanks for this!
Dr.Muffin