First I'm very sorry for your loss.
I think the issue with my parent's divorce I deal with most was because it came out of no where and my mom said 'she waited till we (me and my sis) were older to divorce my father'. I know bits and pieces why they got a divorce. I am trying to be closer to my father. I am grateful I have parent's, my good friend's father recently died suddenly and it made me realize how precious life with your parent's can be, even if you don't get along that well. Thank you for post also! It is good to see it from another perspective.