Hello missquestions,

Wow what a difficult situation to be in. First up I am not christian, jewish, or any other religion. I think that all people should be free to observe their religion to the exclusion of any fundamental or militant means and I think that is fair.

No one religion should wave a hand of authority over another and I think compromise in observing the meaning of Yule (aka christmas which christians replaced Yule with almost 1830 years ago now), and the giving of goodwill toward all others irrespective of religion is a most important observation though it should be done all year round in my humble opinion.

I do think that if he's going to be such a scrooge about everything I would certainly think twice about why I was with such a person. I'm very shocked that he brought up the mortgage issue, and if you pay money towards the mortgage at all then you have a fair legal share in the home, whether he likes it or not. And if you earn less than he you are in fact paying more than your fair % of mortgage. Do you cook? do you clean? do you do laundry? do you make beds or carry out any other domestic work?

I agree with Lynn that this really does need sorting out now. For one reason above all others, and that is equality not to mention the stopping of manipulation and enforcing his own beliefs upon you. If my DJ was religious and I still wanted to observe the Solsitce & Yule but he tried to forbid it he would find a lump of coal in a very uncomfortable place come christmas morn I can tell you know.

Don't let someone dictate to you what you will and will not do. If it were me I'd be going home to mummy & daddy. I have a thought about your bf but I can't say it on here there are swear words involved. Those men who have tried to dictate to me are in my past, and that is precisely where they will stay.