my husband is great and very patient with me. my t believes that i've recreated the emotional climate from my childhood - i hide and don't share anything. i don't think my husband has even seen me cry in 15 years of marraige. i think she wants to get a better picture of what's going on from his perspective. that's what i mean by "it's time for him to come". that's where we are on what i'm working on. maybe that's what's scaring me. maybe it's not so much that he's coming in, but what happens after that.