Thread: So upset!!
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Old Nov 15, 2010, 06:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Belle1979 View Post
Hey everyone, I know its frustrating to have a same threads posted time and time again. I've done it myself after all, so I understand Jiakhan's reasoning.

She is hurting, we all know what that is like, yet she keeps putting herself in the same situation over and over.
Damn I contacted Mark when I shouldn't have.. mind you he didn't ignore me or tell me to go away.. I contacted Louis and he did ignore me. It doesn't stop the pain.

Blunt and hard truth now.
Jiakhan, block him from your facebook so that you cannot even access his profile or make friends requests. You are a bright woman, you know that the infactuation you have is unhealthy. He has never made any suggestion that he wishes to befriend you in life or online - not when he knew it was you.
Write what you feel, you will always get support here... but what Rhiannon has said is true, you have asked for advice and then disregarded it - that's fine you have to make your own decisions.

It is time to be true to yourself.

Heartbreak hurts (I KNOW) but beating yourself up over the "If I had done things differently" (If you said you admired him rather than loved him etc) wouldn't and wont change anything. I have gone over so many different scenarios in my head about both my ex's - If I'd acted differently, said something differently.. the outcome would have been different... IT WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN... Mark still would have left and Louis would still have broken my heart - maybe not when it happened but eventually as I would have been playing a game and not being me.

Cut your lossed darling heart.

Not everyone gets along with everyone. You can't change a persons mind once it is made up.. thats life.

Now take a deep breath and realise that I have said all of this for your own good and not to make you feel bad xxxxxxx










thanks a lot Belle (hugs)..... i know that u understand the pain im going through.it means a lot! others also know that its hard to get over somthing like this..the point is that i asked for advice and didnt act upon it when i was given advice by so many wonderful ppl believe me,i tried to! not hard enough enough may be..but i tried.

as for this guy...i have decided that when i will get to see him after a month or so i wont try to hide may face or something. i've made my apology to him and that should be enough!any reasonable and decent guy wouldnt judge me by my mistakes...because at the end i apologized! i have blocked him on facebook.... now he cant prove 100% to his friends that i messaged him on fb. only my name will be showing in the thread. and i wont approach him from my fake ids aswell. i deserve better than that. i hope i stay strong.
Thanks for this!
Belle1979, LittleForgetMeNot