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(JD) · Nov 15, 2010, 08:01 AM

Hmmm yeah. Thanks for the replies

I guess I could make two different cards, making the non-abuser one something entirely different, and they would assume I gave the same thing to the other?

It made everyone in the restaurant upset.

Well, I'm a bit surprised I didn't do more, but then again, when stressed sometimes my brain doesn't kick in with all the options immediately.

Now if it were a child, I would have intervened more directly. I have a standard line of something like, It's tough raising children today, isn't it? Taking the emphasis off the people and onto the "situation." However, (still running through my thoughts here) I do step physically between an adult and a child or use stronger language, "You need to check yourself right now about how you are treating this child. Is there some way I can help?" when I witness harsh physical treatment (imo) Their reply goes one of two ways. Either they break down a bit with "all the stuff going on in" their lives, or they tell me it's none of my business. (To which I inform them that they made it my business when it became unhealthy for the child (again in my opinion.)) Generally this is in a grocery store check out line I guess when the adult has just "had it" and is in a hurry???

I suspect this couple eats at the same restaurant when they do eat out...pretty much...so I'm likely to run into them again. I'll have a foot in the door now, saying something referencing that fact. I'm also going to do something to educate the new owners... but not sure exactly what. Would be nice to have a pamphlet for them to read.