3 yrs ago I moved across the United states to be with my fiance,,for 6months I slept on the couch because my fiancee lives with his parents,,6 months later my 3 kids moved here also.Ever since they have been here {1 1/2 yrs} the kids and I have moved and moved but now have a place of our own,,during this time the fiancee still lives with his parents and he is in the process of building a home which is just about done...now for my problem..the fiancee's mother would love nothing more than for me and my kids to go back where we came from..she tells me everything the fiancee says about me when him and I arent speaking,,,she tells me not to tell him that we talk or what she says ,,she acts like she likes me and is on my side ,but the truth is ,she is causing problems for us because she only tells me the bad things that he says and tells me that her son wont accept my kids and if we move in with him ,he will be controlling,,,I believe that if she would stay out of our relationship and not tell me things him and I would be just fine,,,lastnight I told him everything that she has been saying to me ,,he seemed to not believe some of what I was saying and left shortly after I told him .HE asked me not to tell him anymore of what she has been saying,,is this fair to me that I have to listen to it and him not to stand up for us? I feel torn between the question of will it get worse once we move in with him ? or should I just give up and go back where I came from.?..or do I stay? I love him with all my heart but I feel that his mother will win in the end..sorry this is so long ,,I need some advice please help me..p.s my finace is building his house just behind his parents home ...do you think He should step up and tell his mother to butt out ? or do you think he will ever stand up for us?..also ,during this whole time ,Finacee has never spent the night or has even had dinner with me and the kids..thanks for listening ,,,Bee
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