well i was speaking with victim services today and apparantly the court date on the 25th is just for him to enter his plea..they do not expect him to go to trial until January or February...makes life harder but i cant let the fear take over..i will take every precaution..i accept if it happens ,it happens, maybe if I end up hurt then the police will open their eyes wider on protecting victims of domestic violence...they seem to think the house arrest is fine for now,,and if he breaks it then they will take action.....i am sorry if i jumped and got defensive in my last post..i am just all over the place with my emotions....i will be moving into a new apartment next weekend..my family will be very close but i am still afraid...i wish i could just walk outside,,i havent taken the baby out unless its in a cab to my moms and back...i am having alot of guilt for being with this man for so long..i am also fighting my emotions for grieving...i will never be in another relationship like this..i will listen to my gut when the signals are flashing long before anything will happen..i plan on staying single for quite a while..i never even would be in this situation if i hadnt of had a breakdown when my ex husband and i separated..i met this man 6 weeks later and i was in really bad shape mentally, but i have my head straight this time and i will take time to heal and better myself...thank you all so much for your encouragement..i dont get much time on the computer at the shelter so i just try to update..it makes me feel good to be able to write on here and know some people may understand...thank you all for caring.....much love and hugs