My parents are not divorced but I recently divorced myself and have two children. I can't answer your question from the perspective you are looking for, cutebagaddict, but I thank you for sharing your story.

I think when my XH and I were getting divorced that it actually helped us to get through it by trying to put our kids first. It helped get us out of the negative mindset of a failed relationship. Because even if the marriage ends, parenthood continues forever, so let's try to do the best we can with this. It's like a jewel worth treasuring that you find in the midst of the ashes of your relationship.