thanks, Geez. I do have a group set up for family and am not search-able on FB. I will have to check out the being invisible when online.. but yeah, I don't spend much time on there and don't really share anything anyway. I think the things that upset me more are like seeing my mom friend someone that is related to an abuser. and it's not so much the being friends with him that bugs me... he's a nice guy, his brother is not. it's just the whole seeing his name on there... seeing his brother's name on there.. it makes me uncomfortable.