I am with you there. I often wonder about that too. How you could see someone hurt and not be affected.
I feel you on the triggers thing also, I am from out of state and had a very traumatic childhood. it's the holidays and I miss home, I feel kind of conflicted about that, how can I miss home with all the things that happened there, It's why I left, but at the same token , I am so hopeful. Not that I like having symptoms of anxiety , but I am glad I don't have some rare disease that there is no treatment for and no one has heard of. At least I can have a support group and feel supported, although many don't understand anxiety, but heah neither do I.