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Originally Posted by sugahorse
I do this a lot, but it's because I have abandonment issues and always feel lonely. Which probably stems from low self-worth.
I cling onto every relationship I can form, as the most important thing in my life. Regardless of how healthy it is or not. I wear blinkers, and am not prepared to take advice from anyone. It's taken a huge fall and immense pain through the implosion of a VERY important relationship to me, to be able to step back and realise how unhealthy the relationship was to me. And I'd been warned from day one - I just didnt want to believe it.
As hard as it is, you need to trust those people that really care for you (Off-hand I'd say your T and H are good bets) and listen to their advice. When you are able to take a step back, you can open your eyes and realise how right they were.
It may be painful, but it's for the best in the long run - please look after yourself. xx
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Hi Sugahorse,
Wow! I'm so sorry to hear that you've been through something similar! Like you, i was warned about one of my friends before things exploded. My husband warned me that she didn't care about me as much as i thought she did, and that things would end badly -- and i didn't listen. I thought he was completely wrong and was just jealous of my closeness with her. I think the jealousy was definitely there, but he also turned out to be right about her. I wish now i would have listened and never gotten so attached to her. So maybe i should listen to him this time??