If you've experience first-hand that your husband has been right, maybe it's time to listen to him again.
The pain of a stressful relationship, that turns out to be unhealthy for you, is just not worth it.
After the last painful experience, I am very weary of getting too close to people. I don't want to get hurt again. Then it becomes a push-pull, as I so dearly want to be loved and cared for