Rainbow, thanks for being brave enough to bring up this topic because I certainly relate.

I got a party invitation to my T's house and that's how I found out the Big Boss at my workplace was T's wife.

I had tremendous feelings about that invitation. I didn't want to know where he lived. I didn't want to know he had a pool because that implied big ol' fancy house...yuk. I didn't want to know that he lived in my small town within a small area meaning we probably used the same gas station, grocery store, etc. I didn't want to know about any of it. Obviously, I didn't go the party.

Then I became curious and I wanted to know and had thoughts about doing a drive-by and seeing if it was as flashy as I imagined, etc. But I couldn't do that until he was out of town so I haven't...yet. I'm still torn. I kind of don't want to confirm his extravagance (if that's true). Obviously, both he and his wife are very successful so I can surmise the wealth part. But right now, I can pretend he is someone who lives modestly despite his wealth and for some reason, that's more comfortable to me.

Anyway, I'm glad I'm not the only one!