(((wi fighter)))
Your T does sound a little aggressive to me. Are you comfortable with him? If someone throws up their hands..seems he gets frustrated easily. Just a thought. It isn't always because YOU are messed up.
This may be his individual style, also. It may help some and not others. They all seem to have a style all their own.

Like someone else posted, therapists often go into the profession because they have had problems, and it draws them .
You can always go to someone else if you feel you are not being validated.

Hope things turn out for you.

PS. Ben..LOL I think that would be a good idea if only we could say that. to them.