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Originally Posted by BlackCanary
I'm looking at what it was about this relationship that I really, really liked - those things are the clues to what I might want in my marriage
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Yes, I think what we like of the therapy relationship provides important information on what we want in our outside relationships. It makes me sad too, because I didn't have those things from therapy in my marriage. If I ever have a serious relationship again, I will definitely look for some of my T's qualities there. I won't expect a clone, by any means, but maybe my standards are a little different now that I have had a guy be nice to me. I know I would like some of those same things you list, BC--someone who can talk to me, won't laugh at me, and isn't hug-averse. Seems like not too tall a list...
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Originally Posted by BlackCanary
it seems like good old-fashioned unrequited love for an idealized man
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I like that description better than transference.
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Originally Posted by BlackCanary
we never worked on the transference element, what it meant, who it was about
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Could it have been about your T and not someone else?
