I would seriously reconsider what you are doing. I doubt you are in love with this other man, besides the fact that you are still married. He came along at the right time, and he is filling a need that your husband didnt, that isnt love, its fantasy.

If you think that your kids dont miss their dad you are fooling yourself. Bringing another person into your problems wont solve them. Why not try marriage counseling? find a good therapist and try to make your marriage work. It takes TWO people to destroy a marriage. You both stopped meeting each others needs, but you cant find happiness while hurting people in the process.