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Originally Posted by jexa
I find her to be so much more distant and professional than my old T. My old T was so warm and motherly. Even after the second session I felt this profound sense of connection to her. She and I had a lot in common and she just "got" me. The new T does not feel this way and I don't see myself being able to open up to her about my past. She is not a nurturing presence. She's nice and everything, but she doesn't seem maternal.
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(((Dearest jexa)))
Hang in there. My heart goes out to you... If you feel really down I hope you will reach out and call your new T or call a hotline. I know that awful feeling in the chest. Please be gentle with yourself...
I don't know if this will help at all but... hang in there with your new T. I went through a similar situation. I had felt an immediate connection to my old T, she also was just like a mom-type. She just got me so well. When she told me she was retiring I was devistated. It took a while for me to find this new T and I felt just the same way. She seemed nice enough but she was cold and professional. But now... her different way has grown on me. I have even begun to realize how good she is as a therapist. I know obviously that all of our experiences are different. But... if you give that new T a chance her value as a T may begin to come through for you.
You may find it helpful to share with this new T just how much and how deeply you miss your old T.
E