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Originally Posted by Whataguy7
... the thing is though I really feel there is some kinfd of connection here possibly on her part but she is very ethical. I mean com`mon, they have feeling s too. She always says that . that she is not a wind up robot. And she wants me to express my feelings. ....
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Yes, I know that therapists have feelings, and they surely find themselves pulled in emotionally by our stories and challenges. I often challenged my exT, and he appreciated how it helped him grow and change his thinking. This growing on both our parts created a tight connection.
But, the positive feelings about doing great work, making progress and the compassionate feelings for our challenges are very different from romantic feelings.
Therapists are especially careful to not view clients as possible romantic connections, just like a teacher does not look at students, nor should a minister look at congregants as date material. This is a profession where non-professional connections with clients are career-ending.
Consider what you really love about this relationship - how she acts, how she responds, the freedom to speak your feelings, how it makes you feel. Those are the things you can take away and seek out in your other relationships.
strength to you at this challenging time
