Hello alangston,

I think you are not being selfish and please don't feel any guilt. From the things your ex-husband was saying he was a condecending chauvanist who never took you seriously from the start.

Why on earth would you feel guilty about not returning to an abusive marriage? I think you have done the right thing and if you have found love who is ANYONE to tell you not to enjoy it and to feel guilty about it? It is possible you loved this friend way before you married your ex-husband anyway.

There is not enough time in life for unhappiness, so love your way through life! I think your finding love is a wonderful thing, and I think you deserve it.

Remember too that it only takes a moment to be in love, there is only one moment we realise that we love someone.