with or without you: Thank you for sharing so much in your reply. I've done this kind of thing before, with other Ts. It's a pattern with me, but I've always been able to control it, and I always discuss it with my T. I emailed my T the same day I drove past her house. I had no intention of hiding it from her. I don't plan to do it again, though.

My T shares a lot about herself with me, but you're right. I've always thought therapy is unfair, but I've had to accept it for what it is--a unique intimate relationship that doesn't last forever. It's about ME, not the T.

I'm glad my thread has inspired you to talk about the experiences you posted about, with your T. It's always a little weird to see your T in RL. I've had a lot of problems with that with my former T because our paths crossed a lot. Once my car didn't start and I had to go ask if I could use her phonebook to look up a service place. I was embarrassed.

I think it's always good to share your feelings about your T with your T. I never used to be able to do that, but it's what I need to do to heal. PM me if you want to discuss this more. Thanks for your post.