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Default Nov 18, 2010 at 03:11 PM
 
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Hi ~ Do you have ANY idea why she is so unhappy?? Obviously she IS unhappy or she wouldn't be so negative and mean all the time. Is her health okay?? Do your parents get along? Or are they constantly arguing?

I have a feeling that she's really not mad at YOU. You're just in line for her anger, so she takes it out on you. I think she's mad at something else, or she has something else bothering her. Perhaps she's unhappy about her lot in life - maybe she had dreams of something totally different than what she got. Maybe she feels she's in a rut and would LOVE a change - a trip somewhere, something new and exciting to do. She's probably sick and tired of seeing the same old thing day in and day out. I would BET that ALL OF YOU take each other for granted. Families do that. No one EVER says "Thank YOU" to family members. For instance, when was the last time you ever thanked your Mom for a good meal??? You probably can't remember. LOL See??? We take each other for granted --- ALL families do that. Your Mom takes YOU for granted too.

Just a little simple kindness will undoubtedly put a smile on her face - or else she'll think you're up to something. LOL Just try some human kindness and see what happens. If you can afford it, take Mom out to dinner. Give her a break. Let her dress up and take her out. She'd enjoy that. Best of luck and take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee
Hi Leed

You're partly correct, I know that something is bothering her and shes taking it out on me but I don't feel its fair for her to do that. Also, I try to help her by giving suggestions and she yells at me for just giving one suggestion. She mostly doesn't agree with my suggestions and will start saying I'm stupid and I dont know anything.. Its just a suggestion, take it or leave it..

I do say thankyou quiet a bit to her for many things ... like I said before, I do know shes very caring, she does lots for me but she lacks caringness in her words and words do wound me, since I was emotionally abused throughout my childhood. And i live in a dysfunctional family, so maybe I'm trying to look for ideas of how to deal with that and emotionally/psychologically detach myself.

If you have any tips on that, that would be helpful.
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