this happened to me 2 years ago. She called to tell me she couldn't meet with me because her mother died. Meanwhile, I had just been to my college friend's funeral that same day (she died suddenly at 25 years old). Obviously, I needed to talk to her so badly; it was killing me. But I did not tell her that, and I did not tell her where I had just come back from. Instead, I told her I was so very sorry for her and I would talk to her whenever she came back. Sometimes you just have to grit your teeth and grind it out. I think if it things went really downhill for me (wanting to hurt myself) I would call an emergency counseling hotline or something like that, but my mood never got that desperate.