ugh, I sometimes steam at the 'can you say more' robotic phrase, especially after I have screwed up the courage to say something in the first place, and I feel like I've said all I have to say about it, then here comes the pressure to say more, the judgement of 'is that all there is'. grr. lol

'where were you just now', 'where do you go'... grounding but makes me defensive and I want to (but don't) answer 'none of your beeswax!'