My wife has OCD. We have been married for 6 years and over this time period she has had many issues with this and dealing with it is so extremely difficult for me as she is so irrational about things, accusatory, self-absorbed, and is never wrong about anything in her own mind . She now sees a therapist and is on Xanax because she had a delusion about something that could most likely never occur in some distant future as if it were happening right now, and she stopped eating and couldn't sleep from these thoughts

The problems that I am having are dealing with a coping with this problem that she has. She creates things in her mind that are not so, and blows them up in to these terrible monsters that eat her up. She constantly accuses me of thinking or doing things that I don't think or do, she says she is afraid of me though I have never threatened her or harmed her in any way at all, nor anyone else. Sometimes I do say things that I wish I did not. They are not threatening towards her in anyway, it is just I get so frustrated dealing with this all the time that it builds up and I vent. She then claims that the "venting" is proof that I am a danger because she says I "posture and have bad facial expressions" and as a result it feeds into her disease. I should mentioned that I never call her names or yell at her or anything like that, it's more of a frustrated "why are you doing this? I can't handle this irrational behavior" kind of a thing, and then she attacks me with something and turns everything around on me which then makes me say something that is inappropriate out of sheer frustration which I immediately apologize for, but you know you can't take the words back..

She sit's by herself every night on her computer and if I talk to her she acts as though I am bothering her. She barely says a word to me anymore. If I say anything that she doesn't agree with on any topic she seriously berates me.

Now that she's on Xanax she walks around in a stupor a lot of the time. I put my arm around her or something and she accuses me of "holding her down". I try to hold her hand and she accuses me of trying to grab her.

She also accuses me of having severe mental problems and is always telling me how I need help, how I need to be a on medication and so forth. She claims that the things I do for enjoyment are harming my mentality and have made me sick, so I should stop them (martial arts - hence why she claims to be afraid of me, because she knows I have this skill, so she thinks I am going to use it on her, though of course I would NEVER do anything like that). I know this is partly because of the times that I do get so stressed out over this that I vent and say stupid things because I am just so frustrated I don't know what else to do, but again they are never threatening towards her in anyway. She is also now accusing me of being the cause of her anxiety, which she has had LONG before she ever met me.

I am so stressed out over this. I am in the process of contacting a local person that can help me find ways to deal with this, but right now it's literally ripping me apart. I love my wife dearly, but I feel I am getting to the end of my rope and my health is suffering from the stress.

If anyone at all has any ideas that might help me, please, please share them.

Thank you kindly.