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Old Nov 15, 2005, 10:15 PM
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Lexi,

I too went through my mother dying of cancer. It was vulvar cancer which she ignored until the tumor was the size of my fist (between her legs). Her surgeon continually told me at the end (which he never admitted it was) that she hadn't given him anything to work with when she finally came to him.

That taught me to never let anything go until it is "too late". Even if your mother hadn't had cancer, if I were spotting I would get in as soon as possible & see your Dr. No matter what your friends are saying about you overreacting, it is better to be safe than sorry.

It is really sad looking back at my Mother & realizing that her choice was the one that ended up determining how she would die.

You had a much better relationship with your mother than I had with mine. All I learned from my Mother was "what NOT to do, & how not to be". You are lucky to have had a mother who could help you through your tough times & one who had the answers that would help you. They always said that when you are young, your parents don't know anything & when you grow older, they all of a sudden become smarter.......not the case in my life.

You are very lucky to have the thoughts & memories you have of your mother, a mother who could help you out in tough situations. That is a blessing you will always have....those thoughts will continue through your life & hopefully be a pattern for your own life to live by.

Do what you think your mother would tell you to do......let her still guide you with your memories of her.....she is still there for you in your mind & spirit....even though not physically.

Debbie
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