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Old Nov 19, 2010, 03:07 PM
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Ohhh hun it sounds so confusing and panicked and hurting for you. And telling you to rage at her is terrifying enough without having all those other yuck feelings tied in to it.

Be gentle with self hun. You have plans to stay safe, work through them and practice self care for now. Things will work out with t. It's just horrible when it takes time to get back to the okay place. Sitting with you
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
Kiya