harmlesstree, it looks like you are looking for us to tell you it is okay to dump your boyfriend because it is "his fault". Many here have suggested books and sites to help you, and your last answer is "I don't know what to do". Luv, is it that you are looking for us to tell you it's all right to break off with him? That is your right and responsibility if that is what you want - but to criticize your fellow and say "I don't know" after you've been given suggestions says to me you don't want to take that responsibility, or to do the work to make it nice. Do what is right for you, but take responsibility for your choices, and keep in mind that it might not just be him... it takes two to have bad or good sex.