I have a weird little ritual I do when I email anything personal to someone. I don't use the email program...at first...I type it up in Word, or notepad or something. Then I leave it sitting on my pc desktop...titled "important". I open it several times a day, edit, re-clarify, etc. Sometimes it takes a week to cut and paste it into email and several more days to actually click send.

Who really cares about my email ritual though...it's dumb and its obsessive. It does help me make my message clear and to the point. Just thought that since you have that overwhelming desire to email, this might work for you.