often times we know something intellectually but we allow our emotions to override logic. i think that's what's going on with you. i stayed in a marriage 15 best years of my life that was unfufilling. i knew this about 4 years in. but i chose to stay in something that wasn't going to work.
perhaps your situation is different than mine. if that is true i'd ask him to go to couple's counseling. if he says no, mine did say no, then it seems he thinks there is nothing he wants to change perhaps for the better in your relationship with him. you go regardless. it may help you untangle all this and find a decision that will work for you.
and welcome to pc! 
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