Dear hazeleyes, Hello. Parents: we couldn't live without them, yet, we can't live with them. It's a cunundrum. It's ok to take a time out to take care of yourself. I can only tolerate my family in little bits. I try to forgive myself for that fragility and accept today's limitations. Then I turn my attention to do something I can do calmly, like pet a bunny, call a friend, come to this site. We can only do what we can do when we can do it. My "best" varies greatly, but, I always try to do my best anyway. I strike a balance between the trying and the forgiving to move forward with my life. I wish you well.