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I have to say that I'm a bit troubled by the focus on his availability. I know that this can be a control issue however there have been times when I had more free time than my husband and vice versa. Perhaps the difference is that we both wanted to spend as much time together as possible. But on the other hand we each understood that until we got married we had other familial, educational, and employment obligations.
Something came to mind while I was thinking about this... It is much easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. I wonder how you would feel if he was honest and said "I am too busy to see you." That sounds rather harsh to me. Even though the broken dates would irritate me to no ungodly end, having a loved one tell me that he didn't have time for me would really hurt my feelings.
Maybe this isn't the right time for the two of you to have a relationship. Sometimes you find the right person at the wrong time.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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