Sounds to me like there are so many hurt feelings going on.

Divorces are lonely, even if they are good divorces, like you really needed to get out of the situation. Doesn't change the fact that you have lived with someone for so long.

Is it possible you are trying to fill that space with other people, who will "take your side" and be there independently for you?

My suggestion would be to start creating a new social circle that revolves around your new life. Screw this guy, he isn't worth the fight anymore, thats why you are leaving him. Just focus on building up your independence in a more positive way.

Honestly, people can have many different ideas, it isn't really fair to ask others to hate what you hate. Emotions are tricky for everyone, including the people inadvertently affected by your divorce from your husband.

I agree keep us updated!