Hi jesseryn. Anxiety is the pits ! I remember the days I would feel if I were alone another minute, I would lose it, but if someone came to see me, I wouldnt let them in, because I couldnt deal with people either ! I am glad that you feel better around people tho.

Just wondering, have you known someone, perhaps someone you were very close too, who had something bad happen to them while they were alone ? Do you know, or could you ask, if anything happened to YOU while alone say in your room, at a very young age that you might not actually remember - but is lurking in your subconscious? Its interesting to me that it really goes away as soon as someone arrives at your home.

My Mom has been petrified of thunderstorms since she can remember. In fact, her fear became debilitating, and she underwent hypnosis. While under going the hypnosis, and mentioning it to her Mother (who was at least 80 at the time), her Mom laughed and said "I can tell you why you are scared of storms...you were struck by lightening while still in diapers - except it burned your diaper off". Mom could not remember that happening, but during the hypnosis, it came up. It was such a relief, she knew why she was so scared of storms (justifiably so), and with the hypnosis, her fear disappeared (too much so, she would not use common sense about 'don't stand under trees in a storm', etc. With a little tweaking during hypnosis, she regained her proper respect for storms, but the absolute terror was gone. I mention this solely as an example of something happening to us or someone we know at an early age that we ourselves dont remember. It might be worth a talk with your family members to see if you cannot think of a case that might have caused your fear of being alone.

I hope you can get some relief from this, and enjoy alone time. As for the nightmares, probably just a manifestation of your awake thoughts about being alone. (And hopefully somewhere in that lies a reason for the anxiety/fear)