I just don't get it me and my husband were married for 7yrs together for 10yrs. We were really good friends but we had nothing in common. The last year of our marriage we fought alot yelled at each other called each other names, cried and we broke alot of things. He punched holes in the walls broke doors I became afraid of him at some point and I decided that it wasn't worth it anymore. I was always trying to patch things up and neither one of us wanted to break it off one day we finally agreed both of us were angry we had a date but he left me waiting and when I called him to yell at him he said he didn't want to be with me anymore. It really hurt to hear but i agreed so he stayed with some friends for a week.
I told him he can stay until he found a place to move and he couldn't so I decided to try and move out. I found alot of places so I moved out. Chris never found anybody there was one girl he thought wanted him it broke my heart into many pieces when I found out about her he told me that she took his breath away. That he felt things for her that he has not felt for anybody, not even me. I was jealous not because of her but because I've never felt those feelings for him either. She rejected him and he started to come after me again. I had met a guy, after chris told me about the feelings he had for the other girl, I was with him off and on.
Which I still am with this guy just friends with benefits kind of thing. I'm not up for a relationship I hate being watched or controlled, I like to be free. I want to live my life be known for me not this guys wife or that guys girl. I still care for Chris as a friend I worry about him, and I still hang out with him. But I think this is causing me problems with the other guy especially when Chris tells me he misses me and still loves me. I don't but I want to be friends how can I keep this friendship without him thinking we are getting back together. If I hang out with him too much he starts acting like we are married so I ignore him this is getting to complicated I have bigger problems to deal with any advice?