I really feel for you, so much is happening and then this too, geeze, sometimes it seems we just don't get a break.
I hit a deer, or should I say she ran into the side of my car. It was in Oct.2003, on the way home from the grocery store. It devastated me, and sad thing it happened at a moment I had my dad on my mind, still grieving, even more at the present, he passed on 11/26/02.
Many of us can relate to these misfortunes, we all have, different and some the exact occurences.
When this stuff is forever mounting, I say that same thing, "as if . . . "
Wish I had more to say, that would comfort you, but the best I can do at the moment is:

(((((((((((( mrb023077 ))))))))))))))

Please take care now.

DE