(((ev)))

I really worried about freaking out my t too. I was scared by what I was thinking, but also worried that he would somehow make it worse by how he reacted to it. I can't promise how your t will take it. I can tell you that when I did discuss it, my t did not freak out. We talked about what made me feel that desparate at times, the reasons I felt I wouldn't follow through, & ways that I could deal when I was feeling that way. He was really good about it, in that he seemed to understand how difficult it was to admit to those feelings, and how much I wanted to be heard. He didn't condemn, or freak out, or pretend it was nothing or everything, he just talked with me about it in a really serious and thoughtful way that helped immensely.

I think the responses above are really good ideas, bringing in the note already written, feeling her out first in the hypothetical. Take your time and be listen to yourself about what will work the best for you. I hope your experience will be similar to mine, that she will listen and support you through this.

Good luck, and take good care of yourself, Quay