PT,
It sounds to me like they really want to "help" but don't know how. Can you remind them that this is behavior that comes from internal sources, not external, and the work you're doing is within yourself? The "this is something I need to do myself" strategy. I say to my husband "You are not responsible for my behavior or my feelings. How I react to things is totally me, and you can't change those reactions, only I can." I repeat the same statement the same exact way as often as I need to. I have to keep firm boundaries in place, or he gets in the way trying to help.

About the job...I commend you for trying to be honest with your employer, but I don't think honesty is the best policy in a work environment. There is too much stigma, and the tendency to be scrutinized is even greater than in our families.